The difference between jealousy, greed and envy in relationships

Many relationships have been destroyed over the issue of jealousy. However, sometimes it is not so much jealousy as envy and greed that is the real root of the problem.

Here is a brief definition of each one before going into a broader discussion of these.

Jealousy – The fear of losing something that you feel already belongs to you.

Greed: The desire for what is not yours and currently unattainable, as it belongs to someone else or is beyond your ability to obtain.

Envy – The desire for what is not yours and the resentment of the person who really owns it.

JEALOUSY

People get jealous in a relationship when they feel like someone else is trying to destroy, steal, or take over that relationship. A woman becomes jealous when she believes that her man is spending too much time with or near another woman. A man becomes jealous when he sees another flirt with his girlfriend or wife.

Jealousy is a natural defensive emotion that seeks to prevent the loss of something important to that person. This emotion, however, is very powerful. It has caused all kinds of irrational behavior ranging from self-absorption to outright violence.

The Bible teaches, in the book of Proverbs, that jealousy is the anger of man. When a man or woman becomes jealous, he often becomes irrational and may get angry with the person he loves.

The Bible tells us that God becomes jealous when He sees His people being seduced by the religions of false gods. In fact, the Bible clearly says that God is a jealous God. Interestingly, there is not a single Biblical reference that says that jealousy is wrong. Can it lead to things that are wrong? Absolutely.

Jealousy is the direct result of a strong emotional attachment to another person. If there were no such emotional attachment, there would be no jealousy. You can see it as a sign that someone cares. But the rage that jealousy often produces is often very dangerous and deadly.

GREED

Greed is the emotional desire and attachment to something that is not yours and is currently unattainable. The Bible clearly forbids us from coveting our neighbor’s wife. When we allow emotional attachment and desire for someone who has reserved themselves for someone else, we are walking on very treacherous ground.

It could be said that it is greed that produces jealousy. When a husband begins to covet a life outside of his marriage, he is bound to make his wife jealous. When a woman begins to covet an already married man, she will make that man’s wife jealous.

Greed is a sign of discontent. If you are beginning to look for a happy life outside of your marriage, you clearly need help with your marriage. This discontent often provokes jealousy in others, which only aggravates the problem.

There are two ways to be happy. First, you can get everything you want. This is a lousy way to be happy, because you will never get everything you want in life. Second, you can want what you already have. This is a much simpler and deeper means of achieving happiness. If you love your wife, if you love your husband, you are not going to look elsewhere.

ENVY

Envy is perhaps the most dangerous of the three. Envy is a combination of greed and hatred for the person who has what you want. When you walk past a nice big house and say, “That should be mine! They have no right to it!” that’s envy When you see the woman you wanted to marry or date another man and say, “That idiot! He should be with me! He doesn’t deserve her.” that’s envy

You will not only be unhappy, but you will seek to insult the person who you think is standing in your way to get what you want. I recently read on one of these Internet forums a request for help from a woman who had fallen in love with another woman’s husband. He wanted ideas on how to sabotage her marriage so he could have a chance with him. that is envy she is willing to insult or hurt the other woman, and possibly the man as well, just to satisfy her own desires.

Envy is incredibly dangerous. It leads to bitterness and hatred towards other people. Avoid at all costs.

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