So you really want to text her… but you don’t know what to say.
If you’re trying to get your ex back, texting can be a dangerous thing. However, it can also be an amazing tool. Say the right things and you will immediately catch your ex girlfriend’s attention. Send the right text and soon she could be begging you to accept her.
Before you begin, understand that texting your ex is usually not a great idea. Not at first, anyway. There are several other steps in the ex return process, and these should be considered first. Make sure you learn them all before resorting to texting with your ex.
With that said, let’s get started.
First of all, understand that your ex girlfriend will be receptive to just SO much contact with you. The first time you approach her after the breakup, she will listen to what you have to say. But the 642nd time? Not so much.
In essence, less is more. So when do you decide to make first contact after the break? Make sure it counts. You want to make sure that whatever you say works for you in the long run and that you’re not making any of the biggest mistakes men always make when trying to talk to an ex-girlfriend.
Texting your ex girlfriend
When you’re about to text your ex, make sure it’s at a time when she can reply. You don’t want to text him early in the morning (when he’s getting ready), in the middle of a busy day (when he’s not likely to get back to you), or while he’s at work or school (where he can’t get back to you). ).
Sending her a text message at night has two advantages. One, I probably have time to answer you. Your day is coming to an end, and there won’t be much to do. Two, your ex girlfriend is more likely to be lonely at night. She could be lying there worrying about things. She even she might be missing you.
Below are three different texts you can send to your ex girlfriend to lure her back.
The text message “I’m fine”
Your first goal is to stop resisting the breakup. You do this by letting your ex know that you’re 100% on board with her about wanting to break things up (even though you’re not).
“Listen, I wanted you to know that I’m totally okay with ending things. The more I think about it, the more I realize you’re right. Maybe we can be friends one day. Until then, take care of yourself.”
This is the simplest and easiest way to let your ex know that you’re not just okay with the breakup, but that you’re actually okay with it. according to what she is saying.
Look, your ex can’t argue here. She can’t fight you. She was probably ready for you to think of 10,000 reasons why they should stay together. Instead, you did the exact opposite.
The cool part of this text is that align with their own interests. Suddenly, you are on the same side. You are allies. You are friends! Whether you like it or not, you’re basically in the same boat.
Best of all, your ex will instantly wonder what CHANGED with you. Why don’t you fight for her? What happened to her since she left you? Did you find someone else? Get a better perspective? Or did you really realize that YOU don’t want her?
The text ‘Cut off all communication’
This is good. Right now your ex is ready to ignore you. She expects a barrage of communication, all from you, and she’s prepared to completely snub you at each and every attempt.
So instead of doing the mass communication, you tell your ex-girlfriend:
“You’re right. It’s probably best we don’t talk anymore. Best of luck, Jennifer. Maybe someday we can be friends.”
BOOM! Preemptive attack. With just a few short sentences, you shifted the balance of power back in your direction. Suddenly, SHE can’t call you. Why? Because you told him not to. You basically told HER that staying apart is what YOU want, instead of the other way around.
Do you know what people hate the most? Being told what to do. Your ex girlfriend will be instantly mad that she stole her fire. Not speak, not communicate? That was HIS line from her! And here you are, throwing it in his face. Owning the breakup in the best possible way: making her see that she will really lose you.
And after being angry, guess what? Your girlfriend is facing a new emotion: FEAR.
Fear of making a mistake when breaking things. Afraid that maybe, just maybe, you’ll see something she doesn’t.
Scare of losing you.
This message tells your girlfriend one quick thing: that you don’t need her. And more than anything, feel comfortable in continuing the breakup? Your ex girlfriend needs to feel that you still need her.
Uncertainty is one of the biggest tools you can use to win your ex back. Make her feel insecure and she will soon doubt the breakup.
The text ‘Make your ex girlfriend jealous’
After the breakup, you have a good chance of making your ex jealous via text message:
“You’re right, and I think it would be better if we both started seeing other people. I’m sorry it didn’t work out. I hope we can be friends again one day.”
Think about it: your ex left you because he thought he could do better. She hoped you would be heartbroken and chase after her to try and win her back.
This “chasing your ex” phase is something your girlfriend was counting on. She gives her the opportunity to let you go little by little, at her own pace, because she is safe in the knowledge that she can take you back with the snap of two fingers ANY TIME SHE WANTS.
So what just happened? You basically told him that you were happy to go out and see other people. Suddenly, an image forms in your girlfriend’s mind… an image of you hugging and kissing another girl.
Trust me, this is NOT what she wants! Your ex wanted you to sit wallowing in misery and pursue her for a while, pumping up her ego while SHE went out and possibly saw other people. Instead, the opposite happened. YOU plan to see other people (apparently at the first available opportunity), and she’s the one wondering if ending the relationship was the right decision.
She also has to wonder, for the first time, if getting YOU back is even a possibility.
Do you see what happened? The whole situation has been reversed. Instead of looking for reasons to keep rejecting you, your ex girlfriend will start looking for ways that she could get back into the relationship, if she chooses to.