Father’s Day, which celebrates dad once a year, is fraught with confusion. Many descendants only pay attention to you through phone calls or business cards.
Because 70% of American prisoners grew up without a father and because poets use few words to get to the bottom of things, they encourage short, handwritten communication with all parents, whether they live with you or not, live or not yet. . Therefore, three poets from San Luis Obispo, California, added Write Your Father’s Day to the calendar of US national holidays.
“Okay,” you might ask, “What do I write to my dad? ‘I love you’ would be a lie and the truth would just hurt him.”
One of the poets responds: “Just write and ask your father what he does or what he did.
1. More pleasant,
2. More terrifying,
3. The most exciting and
4. Very satisfactory.
Don’t wait for an answer. If you don’t know where it is, write your answer as you imagine it. Repeat the question every year, adding briefly whenever you like.
There will be results. Risk them. “
HOW DO YOU KNOW YOUR FATHER?
Take the following survey to see where you rank on the scale. “How well do you know your father on a scale of one to ten, where one represents” Who? “And ten for” very good. “
Who? 1 ___ 2___3___4___5___6___7___8___9___10 Very good
In a survey of 100 random adults,
11 thing 10, 7 thing 9, 15 thing 8, 12 thing 7, 3 thing 6, 3 thing 5, 17 thing 4, 9 thing 3, 13 thing 2, 10 thing 1
The younger the respondent, the more likely they are to ask, “Which parent?”
A comment, typical of many, came by email. An adult son wrote: “Both my biological father and my stepfather have left this earth. And I never knew either of them. They were men with problems all their lives and suffered from John Wayne syndrome.”
Another: “What an interesting question. I did not know my father or my father-in-law despite the years with them.”
National “Write Your Father” Day a week before Father’s Day encourages an end to silent suffering, John Wayne syndromes, bitterness and loneliness.
Writing letters to parents, whether they are alive or not, whether or not you have a known address, changes the writer for the better. And the letters delivered change to the parents.
Here’s one that came by email. This writer did not ask his father the suggested questions. Because he was one of the few who chose number ten on the scale, he felt like he knew the answers. However, feel what happened when he wrote to his long-deceased father:
How’s the weather down there? I know it must be particularly hot this time of year. Someone asked me how well I know my father. I know you well enough to know that if they have an air conditioning concession there, then you have full distribution rights and you have probably cornered the ice cream market as well.
And that’s good, dad; I know you had an incredible time on earth, especially during the time that you and I were alive simultaneously. I know it wasn’t easy being the blind black sheep of a family of Mississippi plantation owners. I guess if something confused me growing up, it was how you could have two opposing views on things like skin color.
I must tell you that I have done most of the things you tried to teach me not to do, most of which you were also doing, but I would never admit it, being a hypocritical hypocrite in a land of hypocritical champions. That’s one of the few things he told me not to do that I’ve been relatively successful at.
I’m sorry it took me so long to write. If the poets had thought of the “Write to your father” holiday earlier, I would have written to you earlier.
Hope you do well down there. I know it’s probably too hot for you to throw those tantrums you used to throw when I was showing off my extreme distraction. By the way, I have not improved anything. Remember how you used to call me all those names wrapped in epithets when I forgot something?
Well, I’ll tell you what, dad. If you can forgive my distraction, I will forgive your tantrums. Let’s even call it. I love you as much as you loved me, dad, and you know that’s more than zero.
Wishing you a hell of a time, your son “
When a son knows that his father’s love is more than zero, he knows something truly significant no matter how late he discovers it. When we all recognize the role of our parents in our subconscious thoughts about ourselves, we gain greater control of our lives.
Help spread the word: Write to your father’s day is a week before Father’s Day. In 2006 it will be June 11.
The more you know your father, the better you know yourself.